Reflect With Me


Have you ever felt imprisoned, mentally? Have you ever experienced colorism or are you the one who indulged in it? Be honest with yourself. It will be very uncomfortable but just think it through. I have been held captive by many things in my life, but mostly by others opinion of me and more specifically my skin tone.

Growing up, I was excessively teased about my skin tone. I was called every mean thing you can think of. Some of the names were very creative, in fact, the more creative they were the more they hurt. Now, when I tell my story or share my experience, I laugh at the names. Funny how the things that hurt you the most become humorous to you.


As I began to get older, I slowly started to accept my color but I hadn’t started to embrace it, yet. People fix their mouths TO THIS VERY DAY to tell me that I’m pretty to be dark. I’m pretty TO BE dark? Read that again! As if being a darker-skinned woman and attractive are uncommon. How is that even possible? 

It really is your OWN people. Colorism has left its crippling imprints throughout history in our culture and we all know where it started, but that’s another topic for a different day. I remember when my mother told me that she prayed that I would be dark like my father. I was so confused by this as a child and I remember crying and telling my mom that she cursed me. So ignorant of how blessed I was that I have a mother that prayed over me before I was born and that I would later be left with imprints of my now deceased father. I was so blessed and didn’t even realize it but now I AM > I WAS.

Navigating through this so-called hierarchy of beauty is challenging to love yourself. It’s not just loving your skin tone, it’s your body shape, your hair texture, or your hair length and wherever else you struggle with loving. From hip hop, the big screen, social circles, and so one there are traces of hate towards darker women. All shades matter and beauty is really only skin deep.

Now, I’m so thankful that I’m the complexion that I AM and would not have it any other way! I’m me, and continuing to love me as I AM is major!
Let’s end colorism.

I’d love to hear from your thoughts or experiences on this subject, comment below or send me an email by clicking the “Chat With Me” tab under “About Me”.
Until next time, I’m manifesting luv, enjoy.

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  • Reply Loretta Rhodes-Sanders

    We love you so much. Your Dad loved you more than life it’s self. As I respond to your reflection I am fighting back the tears as you so eloquently expressed it all, colorism. However, one left out fact, I also prayed that you would have your dad’s complexion as well as his Long Beautiful Eye Lashes. You are a living, breathing, creation of the miracle of prayer. “Black is Beautiful” and so are you. Beauty is only skin deep if you have failed to be beautiful on the inside too. You my love meet both in my book. Forever your daddy’s baby girl! Mommy!!!!

    February 27, 2019 at 3:38 PM
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