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Knowing yourself means you can’t always play the victim. You have to recognize that you may have been hurt by people from your past and you may be a person that has caused someone pain as well. I’m guilty of both. Oh wait, you thought I was going to be “exempt” from owning my faults because it’s my blog? No, this blog was created so that I can have an outlet to express myself as a creative, as a traveler, fashionista, and entrepreneur (stay tuned). This is my digital journey reflecting how I AM > I WAS and how I’m simply walking in MY purpose.

Know yourself, know your purpose, and WALK IN IT!

Often times, we are hindered from our purpose because we are too focused on past hurt we endured or caused. We hold onto to it until it eats us alive! Please, STOP THAT! True, all wounds requiring healing, but don’t dwell. Find a positive in the situation. If you were fired or laid off, cheated on, stolen from, lost a friend, betrayed, or any other hurtful thing, find peace in knowing there is something even greater on the other side.

In conclusion, during your healing, you need to find your purpose. Through some very deep soul searching, I’ve found that my purpose has evolved into so many levels and it’s time to walk in it. Now, that I was finally able to forgive and find myself, I can walk in my purpose!

The greatest gift you can give yourself is to know yourself and here’s my guide on how to start.

1. Know your personality…

Understanding your personality is first and foremost. You have the opinions of others who know you and those who think they do. You also have your own knowledge of what your personality is really like, and who you are in your private moments as well as in your public ones.

The idea is to get to know your personality inside out, to know what you are and what you are not, period. Find out why you react the way you do to certain things, why you lack interest in things that others may enjoy, or why you are how you are.

2. Know your values….

Your values are your morals and a key indicator of who you really are. These are the key principles that you should hold yourself too and never waiver from them. Your values should not change based on your environment. For example, your values at work and at home should be the same.

3. Know your body…

The things I could do in my twenties, I just can’t do anymore.  I know what I can and can’t wear, I know what I can and can’t eat, and I know what I can and can’t do.

4. Know your goals…

Your goals create the journey to your future.  They help you mold the life you can be proud of living and living it lavishly.

lavishly: in a sumptuously rich, elaborate, or luxurious manner.

Your goals are kind, your dreams are kind, and your dreams are important! LOL. Sincerely, your goals are worth going hard for. Don’t believe anything less and if anyone tells you different, remove them from your circle.

5. Know your likes and dislikes…

I used to go through life not knowing what I really liked and disliked. I was kind of living in the moment, which is not always bad but you need to have some foundation. I was in the cycle of liking what’s popular and disliking what’s not “cool”. Now, I am who I am and I love it! Thank God for growth!

Take out the time to clarify your likes and dislikes, and don’t allow anyone to deviate your views. It’s is YOUR likes and dislikes, not theirs. Nobody has to like them but you!

Did you find this guide helpful? I’d love to hear from you, comment below or send me an email by clicking the “Chat With Me” tab under “About Me”.
Until next time, I’m manifesting luv, enjoy.

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