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Tea Party

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of being invited to an amazing tea party by @my4everwellness and it was an amazing experience. My biggest take away was to focus on loving yourself. LOVE YOURSELF! So many of us are strong independent women but we fold with direct criticism and we are filled self-hatred towards ourselves. The desire to be perfect or fit “social norms” or “social media standards” lead us to deeply held body image issues, self-doubt, and a plethora of insecurities. I’m so guilty of this and I’m constantly working on overcoming this by continuing to practice the steps below.

1.Stop trying to be perfect…

Do you find constantly evaluating or analyzing a situation you were involved in and or your appearance? That forever voice that’s a low key hater and always trying to bring you down when you’re just trying to live your best life? Now, this will be really hard to do but go somewhere and just sit in silence. Drown that voice out in silence and welcome all thoughts in. Allow yourself to think freely but DO NOT process. Next, tell your internal hater that there is nothing to change, you are already perfect the way you are, flaws and all so bye Felicia!

2. Stop comparing yourself to others…

Stop looking outward for fulfillment. Ask yourself what are you thankful for. Then, write it all down and revisit this list every time you get into this place. You can even take it one step further and write yourself a love letter. Be sure to focus on what is good in your life and see how blessed you truly are.

My Love Letter

3. Stop doing for others…

Yes, I said it so stop it! As women, we are naturally the nurturer. When you feel that you are giving too much, you can start feeling anger, resentment, and frustration.

Ask yourself: What do I get for going for others?
  • Who even ever asked you to do this for them?
  • What story am I telling myself when I have to do for others?
  • What would happen if I say no?

4. Stop caring about what others think…

Be honest, how many times have you looked at someone and thought they’re too…. [FILL IN THE BLANK]. Even if you didn’t verbalize your thoughts, that energy still went out into the others, creating a projection about someone else based on your perception of them.

When people have opinions about you, remember they are simply that, opinions based on their perception and how they filter information. Which do you prefer? To accept who you are, all of you, even the parts you wish were different or to listen to the projections or opinions of others? The choice is yours; decide to be the youiest you!

5. Honor yourself girl…

Make the choice to honor yourself. We are so quick to give credit to others, we notice other’s talents, beauty, but then beat ourselves up. If you love affirmations, like me, then go ahead and start saying them out loud to yourself.? It’s time to be live! Go ahead and lavish yourself in self-love.

Lavish : sumptuously rich, elaborate, or luxurious.

6. Stop looking for love outside of yourself…

True love starts with yourself. Remember my blog post titled “Know Yourself”, refer to that for more insight on this. Focus on loving yourself and walking in your purpose, not social media likes or love. What if it was enough to love yourself fully and accept all of yourself… even the parts you’re not proud of.

So many of us try to uncover and fix our “flaws” and “imperfections” instead of accepting them, loving them and realizing we are already perfect, already whole. Stop trying to find answers outside of yourself. The longest love story you will ever have is the one with yourself, so why not to start right now.

Did you find this blog post helpful? I’d love to hear from you, comment below or send me an email by clicking the “Chat With Me” tab under “About Me”.
Until next time, I’m manifesting luv, enjoy.

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  • Reply Vikki

    Beyond awesome!

    June 28, 2019 at 6:04 PM
    • Reply lavishlyloren

      Thank you!!

      June 28, 2019 at 7:07 PM
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