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5 REASONS TO STOP SAYING SORRY

Smile more, aplogize less…

As we approach a new decade, I’ve decided to rid my self of a life long habit to stop saying sorry. This is something I want to be more intentional about. See: ” DO NOTHING WITHOUT INTENTION” I hereby declare that I will smile more and apologize less. If you are like me you pretty much have an automatic sorry as your reply to everything. It’s annoying, to me so I just know it’s annoying to others. Oftentimes, we use it as a filler, or just as an automatic response because we are so programmed to feel like we have to accommodate our company. Here are 5 Reasons why you should stop saying sorry…

1. It is flat out annoying…

You automatically say “sorry ” to everything. Now, to be clear, taking responsibility for your actions is a great characteristic, but not as an autopilot response for every situation. You are probably a habitual people pleaser, like me. * insert eye roll* Which also means, you hate disappointing people. One key thing to remember is you are not responsible for everything, period. When you hear someone say sorry too much, it gets old and annoying really fast. No one needs to apologize all the time, so stop. *Note to self: Take your own advice.

2. Alexa, play Weak by SWV

That’s my forever jam, but I digress. When you apologize too much, you come off as weak and that is one thing that you are not. Listen, Linda, we all make mistakes, but there is no need to continuously apologize for the mistake. Your real friends know your heart and won’t even require one( in most cases). Like me, you probably say sorry just to avoid conflict, which is still unhealthy. You are giving the other person an out from learning from their wrongdoing or how to resolve conflict effectively, so stop saying sorry.

3. It ain’t my fault…

If something happened and it was a complete accident, you sincerely had no intention of hurting or offending someone else, then what are you saying sorry for?  You’ll get over it and so will they. Whatever you do don’t harp, it’s apart of life. One day, I was walking into a restaurant, my bangle slipped off my wrist, then fell to the floor making a loud sound and a few people turned around to look. I immediately apologized to them. WHY? I did not hit them with my bangle nor did it affect them in any way. There was no need to apologize, I should have simply smiled and just picked it up and went on about my day. After that, a nice lady said to me” you didn’t haven’t apologize to us for that, you are so sweet”. I immediately became embarrassed, why? I do not know, but at that moment I realized, you have got to break this habit.

4. Reduces the meaning, drastically…

When you use the word so much, people will start to question the value of the word when you use it. Then, they will wonder if you ever meant it. If you say sorry too many times or too fast, it reduces the meaning and makes you look like you just say it for no reason. Save the apology for the times when it’s really needed, trust me.

5. Fill in the blanks…

If you could just pause and think before you reply, it would go a long way. Just ask yourself, “why exactly am I apologizing? ” Try to think of a better reply that you can give before automatically apologizing or just simply pause and say nothing for a moment. Now, don’t take any of this message wrong, if you bump into someone, an automatic sorry needs to happen. If you’re just simply saying it as a filler word, then find an alternative word to use. I personally, have decided to just pause and smile.

At the end of the day, we are all human and should be constantly evolving and growing. Try not to be so hard on yourself and realize we all make mistakes, but there is no need to apologize for being you, so much. Smile more, apologize less…

What bad habits are you leaving behind in the next decade? I’d love to hear from you, comment below or send me an email by clicking the “Chat With Me” tab under “About Me”. Until next time, I’m manifesting luv, enjoy.

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